Life is complicated and complex with all its uncertainties and unexpected outcomes. But is it complicated by nature and is it our perception that makes it so? Are expectations leading to disappointments? Is it fate that is to be blamed?
Lets look at the chain of events that occurred today when I was heading to a Tax filing office early in the morning. First thing I notice when I reach the parking lot is its raining heavily when I am already running late. I curse the rains and get into the car. I drove at 30mph speed with less than 25% visibility and reached the venue more than half an hour late than I had expected.Once I entered the floor of the office I found a long queue of around 40 people ahead of me in the queue. Then I got to know that they accept only 10 applications per day. Gosh! I felt like hitting myself for being late and I cursed the rains again.
Suddenly a thought ran into my head when I saw a queue of around 20-30 people standing behind me – “Hey! Rains actually helped us”. If it hadn’t been the rains the rest of them would have probably reached there earlier and our chance to reach the counter could have been slimer. It just occured to me that its just a matter of how we look at certain situations that makes all the difference.
Its all a matter of perception. If we thought about our past experiences and compared them to our present we would realize that there was a good reason for that particular event to have occurred. However at that particular point we would have felt sad or upset about something not going our way. But when we look backwards we find the reason convincing and in most cases the situation would have eventually done us some good.
What if we change this perception and look at the present as a means to reach that good consequence in future? For example if your girlfriend/boyfriend dumps you today you see it as reason for finding a better person who deserves your love in future. If you fail in an exam you look at it as a second chance to be better prepared or in some cases a chance to look for other avenues which will eventually save you from your failing attempts.If you are fired from the job you look at it as an opportunity to work on your pending business idea. Wouldn’t it be a wonderful world with no room for sadness.
However this can also lead a person to become complacent and lazy having taken things the way they are and not working towards improving their chance to succeed. The bottom-line is that looking at the positive side of a situation is not a replacement for hard work. One must use it as a catalyst to achieve their goals and synergize the best potential in them and not as an excuse to let go.